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Friday, December 13, 2019

4 sexy Best Women's Erotica of the Year giveaways - act fast!

My anthology of 21 brand new OUTRAGEOUS sexy adult storeis, Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 5, came out this week from Cleis Press in print and ebook. I've been busy promoting it all over and will do a full recap next week, but wanted to let you know about four giveaways going on, the first three of which end today. Entry details at links below!

Win Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 on any blog tour stop (Deadline: December 13, 2019)

Win Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 on any Instagram tour stop(Deadline: December 13, 2019)

Win Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 from Sierra Simone on Instagram (Deadline: December 13, 2019)

Win 5 books by Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 authors from me, for newsletter subscribers only (Deadline: December 18, 2019)
To enter, reply to my latest newsletter, sent December 12; if you're not on my mailing list, subscribe here and be on the lookout for my January subscriber only giveaway

BWE5 let it snow

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Friday, July 24, 2015

Want to be a sex blogger? Take this online class by Epiphora and JoEllen Notte

I've emphasized my love of online classes before, based on the ones I've taught for LitReactor, but today I want to share news about this class on The Business of Blogging About Sex, taught by two women who know this from many years of experience, Epiphora, whose blog's tagline is "where sex toys go to get judged" and JoEllen Notte, aka The Redhead Bedhead. I will also be contributing a segment on writing erotica. They'll cover topics such as setting up a blog, posting, making money and getting readers. While I haven't taken the class myself, I can vouch for both of them being smart professionals who certainly know what they're talking about, and you can read testimonials by people who've taken the class. This is a class I wish I'd had access to before I started blogging.

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Here's the class's official description:
Whether you're brand new to sex blogging or want to take your current blog to the next level, The Business of Blogging About Sex will kick you into high gear. Each week will focus on a different topic, giving students the skills they need to be well-rounded sex bloggers. Epiphora and JoEllen will teach you how to set up your site, pinpoint your niche, publish captivating content, obtain products for review, build a loyal following, use social media to your advantage, and much more. Since dildos can't pay your bills, they'll also spend a week discussing avenues for blog monetization, including affiliate links, banner advertising, and sponsored posts.

In addition to instruction and personalized feedback from Epiphora and JoEllen, students will be treated to tidbits of advice from over 30 successful industry leaders, plus a photography tutorial and critique from ace blog photographer Penny of Penny For Your (Dirty) Thoughts. Finally, attend two private video hangouts with Epiphora and JoEllen, where you'll meet their pets and they'll answer all your blogging questions with brutal honesty.

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Friday, April 30, 2010

Virtual book tour for kinky anthology Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission

Every day in May (a few dates at the end will be filled in ASAP - email pleaseantho at gmail.com with your URL and mailing address - US only for the free book - if you want to be part of the tour) a new blogger will post about Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission. Join us! Links will be updated below as they're posted. (Note: some of these blogs are NSFW.)



Please, Sir book tour dates for May 2010

May 1 Baser Instincts
May 2 Man Eater Book
May 3 Hard and Fast
May 4 Erobintica
May 5 Dangerous Lilly
May 6 Sugarbutch Chronicles
May 7 The Sex Carnival
May 8 My Kinky World
May 9 Lusty Literati
May 10 Prurient Interests
May 11 Sarah Sloane
May 12 Hello Saraid
May 13 Desk Full of Dildos (That Toy Chick)
May 14 Julian Arancia (Flavius Iulianus)
May 15 Kristina Wright
May 16 Exploring Intimacy
May 17 Erotica Electronica
May 18 Our Goings On
May 19 SpastikFantastik
May 20 Alpine Subdreams
May 21 Orlando Sex & Relationships Examiner
May 22 Beth Wylde
May 23 Heather Lin
May 24 Pieces of Jade
May 25 Heartbreak Nympho
May 26 Yolanda Shoshana
May 27 ¡Qué sinvergüenza!
May 28 Leather Yenta (Lolita Wolf)
May 29 Marilyn's Room (Marilyn Jaye Lewis)
May 30 Wanton Lotus Reviews
May 31 Curvaceous Dee

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Tuesday, March 17, 2009

In the midst of absolute chaos, a SXSW photo

I just checked out of the Hilton, now am madly rushing to sign books, then do my panel! Today is absolute and utter chaos, but we did catch the Ur Blog Sux panel, with some humor from Dooce's Heather Armstrong, Ana Marie Cox, and Stuff White People Like's Christian Lander.

Here's me in the lobby of the Hilton with Hugnation founder Halcyon and the lovely Ashley Steel, who are super adorable, individually and together. Last night I was really, really, really down (more on that later) and Ashley was very sweet to me. Read the Hugnation blog and follow them on Twitter.

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Thursday, November 20, 2008

Why Amazon's book stocking system needs a major haul

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If you've ever been a small publisher selling to Amazon, or an author/editor dealing with a small publisher dealing with Amazon (that's me! With Pretty Things Press and Naughty Spanking Stories from A to Z 1 and 2 and Sex and Candy), you know that their stocking system makes no sense. Or, well, it makes sense to them, but sucks bigtime for publishers because they are constantly ordering in extremely small increments. I had to deal with frustration as an editor with my books not always being in stock; I've also had other Amazon issues with them de-listing the rankings of books like He's on Top, but that's another story.

Stephanie Grenier's Blog Blazers: 40 Top Bloggers Share Their Secrets to Creating a High-Profile, High-Traffic, and High-Profit Blog! is one example of the flaws in the system. Today it's still showing "Temporarily out of stock" (and doesn't give potential customers a clue when it will be in stock). Bad Amazon. You deserve a spanking!

One commenter wrote:

Sometimes it’s good to be out of stock. It gives a certain degree of ‘get-it-now-before-it-runs-out-again’ perception to the buyers.

I respectfully disagree. What happened with me, full disclosure, is that Steph's reply to my comment convinced me to order it, but then the lovely Jennette Fulda (an interviewee) said she'd send me a copy, so rather than wait, I'm getting that one and will of course review it here and on Amazon. I really do look forward to reading it; I mean look at the bloggers who are interviewed: Dan Lyons, Jessamyn West, Seth Godin, Penelope Trunk, and onward. I think I found it via SEO Book, but I'm not sure.

My main point is, through no fault of the editor's, she lost a sale, and I'm sure more people will click through and buy a book on impulse if they think they're going to get it right away. One thing Amazon does well is shipping; I order from them often and usually get my book within 2 days, sometimes the next day (Manhattan delivery).

You can, of course, also order it directly from the author, and it does indeed exist:

Blog Blazers

I especially like the simple but informative blogger bios section, where you can easily find out more about these talented bloggers.

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Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Live from The Martha Stewart Show studio

Nichelle and I are right this very minute (9:10 am) in the studio on 26th Street of The Martha Stewart Show!

Stay tuned for our liveblogging at Cupcakes Take the Cake at 10 am and follow us on Twitter (@cupcakeblog) for LIVEblogging and tweeting of her all-blogger audience show, with Perez Hilton and other special guests!

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Thursday, August 14, 2008

Dooce's memoir title

It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita by Heather B. Armstrong of Dooce (and yesterday's New York Times) fame comes out March 24, 2009 from Simon Spotlight Entertainment.

She mentioned it on her blog:

However. I have another enormous deadline looming over me right now, the one where I'm supposed to turn in the final pages of my manuscript to my editor (hi, Patrick!) at Simon and Schuster. It's sort of a memoir about my pregnancy and postpartum experience with Leta, and it's only one paragraph long. It goes: "It sucked and then I cried. The end." My editor thinks I should elaborate a little bit. He's so picky.

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Monday, July 07, 2008

What the NYT missed in its Boing Boing/Violet Blue story

Updated 7/8

I’ll preface this by saying that while I intently followed the Boing Boing/Violet Blue story last week, I essentially stopped after the last LA Times Web Scout set of interviews (linked below).

I actually took a break from the internet over the long weekend, and it was lovely. I did read today’s New York Times’s story, but haven’t read any commentary on it save for G4’s (who said that the Times is "actually paying attention," from which I beg to differ), so if these points have already been made, my apologies. Any relevant/interesting links/updates/errors, please do send them to me.

I could've just said that I made a tinyurl for it that sums up what I think: http://tinyurl.com/nytnonstory

I will also say that I have no vested interest in either outcome. In light of this full disclosure-urging post, I will say, I know, like, and respect Violet immensely. She has published my work and vice versa. I read her blog and column and Twitter regularly. I follow Xeni on Twitter, and once in a while I read Boing Boing, usually when it’s about cupcakes, but I’m not a regular user, and have gotten cupcake tips from her and Cory Doctorow, who I met and got an autographed book from at BEA. (I think that about covers everything there.)

I’m not up in arms about what Boing Boing did, but I don’t think it was a well-played move on their part. But that’s not really what I’m interested in right now. Clearly, this is a bigger story than whatever happened or didn't happen between Xeni and Violet, and while much of it is specific to Boing Boing due to its size and influence, I think there are broader issues involved that speak to how other blogs and major websites conduct themselves. But no new issues were presented by the Times piece that I can see, and other than a lackluster summary of the chain of events, they added nothing. And if you agree with me on that, what was the point of such a piece?

That being said, here we go. There are a hell of a lot of things wrong with Noam Cohen’s article, “Poof! You’re Unpublished.” We’ll ignore the fact that this ran on July 7, when the last LA Times blog pieces ran on July 2nd, or the “Freedom of the Press” tag, which I’m not really sure is what we’re talking about.

First of all, what kind of lede is this?

FOR generations, people and institutions have had second thoughts about decisions: stock exchanges delist companies; higher courts overrule lower ones; tennis players do over a disputed point; celebrities reinvent their personalities.

On the Internet, however, we have the technology to act more comprehensively: specifically, to unpublish.


Well, okay, thanks for the news flash that people have second thoughts about things. But I feel like this sets the story up to be about one thing, when really it’s about another. It sets it up to be about erasing information, as if it never existed, when that is not quite the case.

Update: In my original draft, I had this part about how the Times said that Violet was "in the process of trademarking her name," but that I was pretty sure that she had already done so by the symbol next to her name on the front page of her site, and elsewhere, but couldn't find the exact confirmation and this May 2008 AVN article said it's still in process. But Violet confirmed on Flickr that she'd already done so. It's all a blur from law school so I wasn't sure, but I'll add this to the list.

Problems with the article:

But when one popular Web site, Boing Boing, was recently discovered to have unpublished all references to a blogger named Violet Blue, some of its readers treated the decision as a step of utmost consequence, even though it took place about a year ago.

Violet’s original claim was that Boing Boing had removed all posts referring to her except one. I don’t have that single post link handy at the moment, so I’m not sure if it’s still active, but that was the claim.

Also, it’s a little disingenuous to tack on the “even though it took place about a year ago,” when people are just finding out about it now. Surely, if they’d known about it then, it would have provoked the same reactions. So the issues is not just that they unpublished the work, but that they did not publicly state they were doing so or comment on it in any way. Had they done so, it may have provoked a similar outcry, but maybe it wouldn't have.

In its online edition, the Times chose to link to Boing Boing (it also spells out the URL, presumably also in print, which I haven’t seen), but not to Violet’s blog, or, more obnoxiously, to the LA Times Web Scout blog which it relied on for its figure of “at least 70 or so posts.” When Violet is claiming that there were even more than that, you might think the Times would look into doing some original reporting.

I’m well aware that the New York Times is not a blog, but a newspaper, but to not provide the Web Scout link is sloppy and rude. And to not link to Violet’s site (which they could have just said was NSFW) when identifying her as a blogger also doesn’t serve their readers, though the same could be said for countless NYT pieces, including the one I was quoted in, about my cupcake blog. But, okay, we get it, the Times wants to endlessly write about blogs and here, use them as a source, but only occasionally link to them.

The main issue I have with the article, though, is that it doesn’t mention anything about the fact that you can still access this material, in this case via the Wayback Machine, which Boing Boing at least alluded to in their post. It also didn’t mention that now you can find all those cached posts at the site Ed Hunsiger last week created www.violetbluevioletblue.net (thanks to Aaron Landry for first alerting me to it), which he was able to do because of the Creative Commons license on Boing Boing’s posts. The fact that this material was unpublished from Boing Boing is true, but it was not unpublished from the entire internet. That is neither here nor there when it comes to Boing Boing’s decision and its implication, but it is crucial when talking about the idea of erasing a website’s history, which is what Cohen touches on multiple times in his piece:

One moment there is material on a Web site, the next moment it’s gone, and in such a way that nobody would guess it had existed.

And:

The twist, of course, is that for nearly everyone who lives with what the Internet says about them, being unpublished would seem a dream come true. Those photographs from the frat party can be unpublished? Who knew? The essay to the Mickey Mouse Fan Club, too?

And the most indecipherable (to me) paragraph:

For all the damage to reputations the Internet can cause, perhaps the greater anxiety from online communication is the weightlessness of it all. The whole World Wide Web can seem like a hall of mirrors — nothing tangible, no binding, no watermarks, no notary public seals. Where, exactly, is it? How do we know any of it is true?

Again, not only don’t I understand the above paragraph’s language, but I think it’s disingenuous. Whether what Boing Boing did was right or wrong is one issue, but in condescending to its readers, or perhaps speaking to ones who’ve never heard of Boing Boing, Violet Blue or, like, the internet, they are giving the impression with the above statements that these posts have entirely disappeared from public view.

Also, I think the issue is not simply that the posts were unpublished, but that that was done silently. The one hint of asking some important questions the Times does is:

Was Boing Boing deceiving its loyal audience by silently deleting the material, even if no one noticed the absences until a year later? What does it even mean to deceive an audience when it comes to a catalog of one’s personal writings? And does popularity convey different responsibilities to the people who produce a Web site?

But it doesn't ask anyone for an outside perspective, or really try to answer these questions, except for quoting Violet and Xeni, who both say pretty much the same things they each said to Web Scout.

Other things the Times missed:

Rex Sorgatz provided an example last week of Boing Boing taking down a post referencing him after he was critical of them. A question for some reporter to maybe ask Boing Boing is how common this is, or to go out and find other people who share a similar situation. I would imagine there are other people besides Violet and Rex to make a claim like this. If they are right that it’s about more than Violet Blue vs. Boing Boing, tell us how.

How have other high-profile sites dealt with this issue?

What other ways could Boing Boing have done this without incurring the wrath of so many commenters?

Beyond Violet herself, does a site like Boing Boing "owe" traffic to people? (Tony Comstock tackles this issue.)

There are a lot of issues at stake here, and I realize they couldn't tackle them all, but in my opinion, they didn't tackle any. Instead, they obscured some of the bigger points and just regurgitated a lot of things that were already stated.

And next up, though probably not until the end of the week because I am buried in work and have spent way too much time on this (did I say I wasn't blogging anymore? Actually, I said I was "laying low," and socially I have been; my laptop is my new BFF), I will share my thoughts on finally seeing the Sex and the City movie (yesterday), whether cupcake blogging is "safer" than personal blogging, and Emily Gould’s book deal and its discontents.

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Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Blogging your way to a book deal

Actually, I have no advice for you on how to do that* but my friend Michelle Goodman, author of The Anti 9-to-5 Guide: Practical Career Advice for Women Who Think Outside the Cube and the forthcoming My So-Called Freelance Life:
How to Survive and Thrive as a Creative Girl for Hire
(both from Seal Press) has a great post up about using blogging to build a platform for your book idea with 23 suggestions about how to go about it.

This isn't strictly about blogging but a little hint: Google news alerts are your friend! Not only that, I think they are necessity at the very least for your name and your book's name. Choose comprehensive. I have, uh, hundreds of these and they are a major source of my information about some of the topics that matter to me most. They can also fuel your blogging if you have "nothing to say." You also learn really fast what Google tracks, and what it doesn't. Comprehensive covers blogs but it's not an exact science. For example, for my name alone, I have "Bussel," "Rachel Kramer Bussel," "Rachel Kramer Bussell" and "Rachel Kramer" and...all yield different results! Just something to think about.

And speaking of Seal, check out some of the other books superstar editor Brooke Warner (and yes, she's my editor on Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women, a book Seal inherited when Avalon Publishing closed down Carroll & Graf):

BACHELORETTES, BRIDEZILLAS AND BEAUTIFUL CORPSES: Unraveling Reality TV's Twisted Fairy Tales, by Jennifer Pozner


•An expose of the ways that reality television denigrates women.


SUSIE BRIGHT'S MEMOIR by Susie Bright


•A first memoir from America's favorite feminist sex expert.


THE STIRRUP QUEEN'S GUIDE TO INFERTILITY: How To Survive in the Land of IF, by Melissa Ford


•From the creator of the Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters blog, this book provides advice and emotional support to men and women struggling with infertility.


DIRT: Writers on the Gritty Truth of Keeping House, edited by Mindy Lewis


•In this anthology, writers reflect on how we make sense of our lives, sort out our messes, and restore order to our psyches through cleaning and keeping house.


CHILDFREE BY CHOICE by Laura Scott


•A in-depth examination, including interviews with over 100 women (and some men), about why more and more couples are opting to remain childfree.


THE LIST: 100 Ways to Shake Up Your Life, by Gail Belsky


•100 awesome suggestions for women who want to want to do something that adds a little thrill to their lives.


SWEET CHARLOTTE'S SEVENTH MISTAKE, by Cori Crooks


•An artistic and poetic account of one woman's search for her real father---with photos, newspaper clippings, and prose.



*But let me just say that in the next few months I truly, truly hope that I can tell you how I turned my cupcake blog into a book. We've had some interest from a very well-respected publisher who I would LOVE to work with, so I'm just putting it out there that I really hope that works out, because it'd be an honor to work with them and their vision is so in sync with my own for a cupcake book. Thank you, universe.

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Thursday, January 10, 2008

January events! Derek and Romaine tonight, In The Flesh, Best Sex Writing, Erotic Love Letters

It's a busy month kicking off a busy year, filled with many deadlines and many events...here's what's on tap for January. I'll provide the February recap once these events are over, or you can always check my site's calendar (needs updating at the moment, sorry) or my RSS calendar on the left side of this blog. Lots of travel coming up, about one event per month for the next little while. There's also a Cupcakes Take the Cake Meetup this Saturday at Out of the Kitchen, and an event called Kiss and Tell on January 16th at Arena Studios that I don't have any more info on, but, uh, I'll be there!



Tonight (Thursday, January 10th), despite this evil cold, I'm going on the Derek and Romaine show on Sirius OutQ to talk about Best Sex Writing 2008. I will try not to steer the conversation too far into Romaine mommyland, but I may not be able to help myself. Speaking of which, there were soooo many adorable babies and little kids at the U.S. Embassy on Monday. Yes, obviously I was very jealous but I'm biding my time. 2010 or 2011 maybe? Then I can start becoming a baby factory (I definitely want more than one).

IN THE FLESH EROTIC READING SERIES
BLOGGER SEX NIGHT
THURSDAY, JANUARY 17th at 8 PM
AT HAPPY ENDING LOUNGE, 302 BROOME STREET, NYC
(B/D to Grand, J/M/Z to Bowery, F to Delancey, http://www.happyendinglounge.com)
Admission: Free
Happy Ending Lounge: 212-334-9676


In The Flesh hosts its first all blogger night, with a range of readings from sexual memoir to erotica. With Dashiell (Fleshbot), T.A. Hines (Funky Brown Chick), Nichelle Stephens (nichellenewsletter.typepad.com), Martha Burzynski (Alice Ayers), Allison Bojarski (crossfitnyc.com), Lolita Wolf (lolitawolf.blogspot.com) and Jen Dziura (jenisfamous.com), who will read from the recently released anthology Sex and Candy: 22 Succulent Stories. Hosted by Rachel Kramer Bussel (Lusty Lady blog, editor of Best Sex Writing 2008, Hide and Seek, Sex and Candy). Free candy and cupcakes will be served.

In the Flesh is a monthly reading series hosted at the appropriately named Happy Ending Lounge, and features the city's best erotic writers sharing stories to get you hot and bothered, hosted and curated by acclaimed erotic writer and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel. From erotic poetry to down and dirty smut, these authors get naked on the page and will make you lust after them and their words. Since its debut in October 2005, In the Flesh has featured such authors as Laura Antoniou, Mo Beasley, Lily Burana, Jessica Cutler, Stephen Elliott, Valerie Frankel, Polly Frost, Gael Greene, Andy Horwitz, Debra Hyde, Maxim Jakubowski, Emily Scarlet Kramer of CAKE, Josh Kilmer-Purcell, Edith Layton, Logan Levkoff, Suzanne PortnoySofia Quintero, M.J. Rose, Lauren Sanders, Danyel Smith, Grant Stoddard, Cecilia Tan, Carol Taylor, Dana Vachon, Veronica Vera, Susan Wright, and many others. The series has gotten press attention from the New York Times’s UrbanEye, Escape (Hong Kong), Flavorpill, The L Magazine, New York Magazine, Philadelphia City Paper, Time Out New York, Gothamist, Nerve.com and Wonkette, and has been praised by Dr. Ruth. This is not Amanda Stern’s Happy Ending Reading Series.

Allison Bojarski is ready and waiting to kick your ass and have you pay her for the honor of doing so, at the best damn gym in New York, CrossFit NYC. Allison’s also blogged her way through Brazilian music and dance, cupcakes, the New York food scene, and marathon training. Equal parts sensual hedonist and clean-living advocate, she savors life to its fullest without looking or feeling crappy the next morning.
allisonbojarski.blogspot.com and crossfitnyc.com

Allison Bojarski reads at Blogger Sex Night, January 17

Martha Burzynski a writer and photographer. Her work has appeared in The Village Voice, Publisher's News (UK), and online for Gothamist.com, Gawker Media, Mr. Beller's Neighborhood, and TheBlackTable.com. She has written about drinking and bars in the popular Drink Up column for Gothamist, and daydreamed crimes, dead cats, and unsent love letters, among other things, elsewhere. She photographs city life, events, including weddings, and portraits. She has an eponymous portfolio site at marthaburzynski.com and is obsessed with Flickr, too, where she can be found at flickr.com/photos/marthaburzynski.
alice-ayers.livejournal.com

Martha Burzynski reads at Blogger Sex Night, In The Flesh Reading Series, January 17

Rachel Kramer Bussel is Senior Editor at Penthouse Variations, conducts interviews for Gothamist.com and Mediabistro.com, and wrote the popular Lusty Lady column for The Village Voice. Her erotic stories have been published in over 100 anthologies, including Best American Erotica 2004 and 2006, and she’s edited numerous anthologies, most recently Best Sex Writing 2008, Hide and Seek, Crossdressing, He’s on Top and She’s on Top. Rachel has also written for AVN, Bust, Cosmo UK, Gothamist, Mediabistro, Metro, New York Post, Punk Planet, San Francisco Chronicle, Time Out New York and Velvetpark.
lustylady.blogspot.com

With a skeleton cupcake at The Brooklyn Kitchen

Dashiell is currently the Associate Editor of Fleshbot, but has been writing in various forms on the internet for nearly eight years. No, that is not his real name, but please don't ask him to explain. He wishes he had something more to say here, but that's pretty much it.
www.fleshbot.com

Jennifer Dziura is a comedian and blogger best known for hosting the Williamsburg Spelling Bee⎯a real, cabaret-style adult spelling bee, as featured in the New York Times. Jennifer tours nationally as a comedian with her one-woman show "What Philosophy Majors Do After College," and recently returned from a
three-week tour entertaining the troops in the Middle East. She has written for McSweeney's, appeared on the Bob & Tom Show, debated professionally for Dewars Scotch, and has sold her eggs to gay men, twice.
jenisfamous.com

Jen Dziura, reading at In The Flesh, Blogger Night

T.A. Hines is a writer and blogger who has lived in London, Chicago, Amsterdam, Los Angeles and The Hague. She is a contributing blogger at Nerve.com, host/producer of the Internet radio talk show & podcast Dating Roadkill, and editor/publisher of the blog funkybrownchick.com. She enjoys passionate love affairs with far-away lands and intelligent men. Her writing frequently covers interpersonal relationships (online and offline), sex & dating, contemporary lifestyle, arts & entertainment and travel. She has traveled to more than 15 countries, and she speaks English and Dutch fluently as well as conversational French and Italian. She currently resides in New York City.
funkybrownchick.com

Funky Brown Chick to read at Blogger Sex Night, In The Flesh Reading Series, January 17th

Nichelle Stephens is a blogger, comedy producer of Chicks and Giggles, cupcake enthusiast, freelance publicist and small business accountant. She's semi-broke, but she has the most amazing, wonder-filled friends.
nichellenewsletter.typepad.com

Nichelle Stephens, reading at In The Flesh Blogger Night

Lolita Wolf describes herself as a poly switch who plays pansexually. She is an activist who defends the rights of S/M practitioners, spreads the word about S/M, and helps the community grow and flourish. Yet, her goal remains "to have fun." Lolita has many specialties including bondage, impact play of all sorts, hot wax, poly relationships, social skills, communication and negotiation, CBT, etc. Lolita has presented workshops for universities and organizations across the country and she has authored two books: CBT In A Nutshell and Spanking. She is an Emeritus Board Member of both the Eulenspiegel Society (TES) and Leather Leadership Conference, former Chair of Lesbian Sex Mafia, an honorary member of GMSMA, and she is active with National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and Leather Pride Night. A six year old Princess who lies about her age, Lolita manages to stir up trouble and get her own way (most of the time). She blogs about relationships, sex and BDSM/Leather as well as life in NYC.
lolitawolf.blogspot.com and LeatherYenta.com



Best Sex Writing 2008 cover

January 22, 7 pm - 9 pm
Best Sex Writing 2008 Book Release Party/Reading

At Rapture Cafe, 200 Avenue A (between 12th and 13th), NYC, FREE
Featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel, Rachel Shukert ("Big Mouth Strikes Again: An Oral Report"), Lux Nightmare ("The Pink Ghetto"), Miriam Datskovsky ("Absolut Nude"), and Liz Langley ("Sex and the Single Septuagenarian"). Free cupcakes will be serived, and books will be available for sale and signing.

Babeland logo

Sunday, January 27, 8 pm - 10 pm
Love Letter Writing Workshop
$20
U R HOT. Want to express your feelings to your Valentine, but just can’t find the words? Spend the evening with Rachel Kramer Bussel penning romantic notes and sweet nothings for your special someone. Rachel is a novelist, editor, and columnist; editor of more than a dozen erotic anthologies, including "He’s on Top", "She’s on Top", and "Hide and Seek". Pen and paper will be provided, and a handout with suggested readings will be passed out. You will have the oportunity to read your work aloud (but are not required to), and will leave with a letter you could send to a lover (real or imaginary).
Babeland, 43 Mercer Street, NYC
Call 212-966-2120 to register or visit the store

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Saturday, January 05, 2008

My new blog BFF: Clit Think


from Clit Think


So the past two days in London have been all over the map. Yesterday was quite trying, one might even say rock bottom. I was meant to meet my Cleis Press publisher at the Tate Modern, and was so busy congratulating myself on getting there on time that I didn't realize we were supposed to meet outside the members room. That was very frustrating, though I did get to see the museum and the Louise Bourgeouis exhibit. Then I made my way to Holborn and then to Coffee, Cake and Kink, where I was treated quite grandly and found out they do a weekly reading on Saturday nights, and have fetish nights on Fridays. I got some bad news as I was working on my computer and was feeling rather like a complete loser, when I happened to note the woman at the table next to me, who had already seemed quite cool, perusing my book Crossdressing: Erotic Stories.

So I told her it was my book and then it turned out we have a friend in common and that she's a blogger. We had much to chat about and since then I've been perusing her very hot and fascinating blog, Clit Think (tag line: "Polemics, BDSM and Polyamorous Sex from a Feminist Slut"), which I think many of you will enjoy.

I was still a bit down in the dumps about various problems that I'm anxious to get home and resolve, but today I ventured to two cupcakes bakeries, Hummingbird Bakery on Old Brompton Road and then over to Buttercup Cake Shop, where the owner, Donna, was very kind and gave me free mini cupcakes, including banoffee (butterscotch frosting, toffee shavings, and banana cake!), which may be my new favorite cupcake. Many photos of those coming soon. Then I made my way on the National Rail to Hitchin to visit my friend whose baby was due...yesterday. She was in good spirits and we caught up and played with her 3-year-old son and ate more cupcakes. Then we came home and had yet another super hot kinky scene, all of which I may write about at another point, that's been both a highlight and somewhat of an unexpected surprise of this trip.



I've had a great time in London, and have spent many hours up late at night, listening to F. snore and enjoying the warmth, quiet, and coziness of his flat. I've gotten to know the Millenium Bridge, seen the Spice Girl, ate my very first Scotch egg, and generally taken a break from the madness that is my life in New York. I've realized that while I miss New York, I don't miss the madness. I actually really like routine and calm and don't have enough of that, so I'm hoping to make 2008 a year of order and organization. I say that now, quite easily, but I also know that I distract myself from goals like that by the next party, the next event, the next thing I feel I cannot miss. I want to get back to falling in love with writing, with challenging myself and meeting those challenges.

Also in the time I've been here, I've been invited to read or speak in Miami, San Francisco, Washington D.C., and London. I'm working on all of these and will post details when I have them. I'm trying to be calm and not freak out as much as I usually do when things go awry. So my head's a bit scrambled these days, with much to write and ponder and figure out. I've been off my game in a lot of ways, kindof letting the days and my life pass me by, as if watching from afar. I want to get my momentum back without going into ridiculous overdrive where I have no time to relax. Finding that balance is challenging, to put it mildly.

For now, I'll leave you with some words from Clit Think:

Right then, Ms. Domme really was a little grrl. His little grrl. I needed my Daddy so very very much! He took me, cradled me and controlled me, enveloping me simultaneously in safety and in almost unbearably acute sensation. Pleasure crackled over me as he teased, tightening me like a string until I was humming and vibrating with need, whimpering, skin beginning to glisten.

And then his fingers finally, finally, FINALLY plunged under my panties and into the soaking wet lips of my convulsing cunt. A bolt of energy shot through me, and I think I called out and jerked like a puppet in his arms. He gathered me against his chest, holding me close while I buried my face into him, breathing him in with short gasps. He moved soooo gently and soooo softly, sliding back and forth over my swollen clit. When he paused, I felt it throb and quiver against his finger tip. My whole being felt wide open, beyond thought and consciousness.

“Daddy wants his little grrl to feel sooo good. He wants his little grrl to be such a
happy little grrl. She deserves to feel this good,” he murmured into my hair as I swirled closer and closer to cumming...

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Tuesday, January 01, 2008

Gawker (finally) launches its sci fi blog io9



I just got the scoop via Twitter that Gawker's long-awaited sci fi blog, io9, just launched (click here for the definition of the name). And in case you're wondering, I know next to nothing (perhaps even actually nothing) about science fiction but it's edited by my friends Annalee Newitz and Charlie Anders, pictured below, who also co-edited the anthology She's Such a Geek, so I will be checking it out, and encourage you to do the same. (And for those wondering about my prolific posting, jetlag is keeping me up late while the person I'm visiting is asleep, so I'm amusing myself on the internets.)


photo via Flickr user lawgeek

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