Slate interviewed me about editing the sex diaries

Amanda Hess at Slate interviewed me about editing the sex diaries! I read Slate every day and they are in my Top 5 Publications I'd Like To Write For so this was very exciting. Plus since the end of the diaries was announced two weeks ago I hadn't realized there was so much interest in it.

My job involves fact checking how to spell Guns N' Roses

This week's sex diary by a female music critic had me fact checking how to spell Guns N' Roses! I love my job. Want to write an anonymous sex diary and get paid? First, read a sex diary or three so you know what they're all about, then if you're still interested, email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me a little about you and why you'd make a good diarist.

Yes, I want to edit your sex diaries

Lots of people tell me they've wanted to write a sex diary but...something stopped them. With a new year approaching, if you've wanted to write one, here's a nudge to consider writing an anonymous sex diary and letting out your inner literary exhibitionist. You can read the previous diaries here to get a sense of the style and content. There's no minimum (or maximum!) amount of sex required, or any other requirements, for that matter, in terms of sexual content, just a lively, interesting personality and way of looking at your own life (as far as I'm concerned). Email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com if you're interested (and/or plan to have a wild and sexy New Year's Eve). Thank you for reading and for referring people to the diaries. It's greatly appreciated! Happy, sexy New Year!

I want your Frankenstorm sex diary and Austin events with StrangeLove and Shanna Katz

I'm in sunny, beautiful Austin, and will soon have photos and video clips from my wonderful erotica panel at Paramount Theatre (felt so fancy!) with Pat Tucker at the outstanding Texas Book Festival. The organizers went above and beyond and have even been helpful to those of us stuck in Austin due to Hurricane Sandy. I am still editing weekly sex diaries at Daily Intel and I'd love someone who's in the eye of Frankenstorm to write one starting today and cover Frankenstorm sex. Email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and I'll send you details. Did you know 70% of Americans have had sex during a thunderstorm or tornado? Find out the storm/sex connection at Buzzfeed Shift.

Below are two fun events in Austin and as long as I get home in time, I'll still be at Williamsburg, Brooklyn sex shop Shag reading Cheeky Spanking Stories to you in the dark.

Tonight the band StrangeLove (stream their music free at their site!) perform at 12:30 a.m. at Saxon Pub at 1320 South Lamar Boulevard, Austin.

Tomorrow, October 30th at 7 pm, hear Shanna Katz give an oral sex workshop at feminist bookstore (remember those? they still exist but need your support!) at Bookwoman, 5501 North Lamar Boulevard, Austin. Details:

BECOME AN ORAL SEX AFICIONADO

You can’t be a superstar sex partner until you’ve mastered the subtle art of cunnilingus. For starters, you need to get your timing down, learn what licks feel good and how to be sure your partner is truly enjoying your efforts. Luckily, Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind teaches all this and a whole lot more.

Whether you’re just getting started or are practically an oral expert, this book has just what you need. It’s packed with tips and techniques to improve those tingling tongue moves and features tastefully erotic photos of positions perfect for oral pleasuring.

Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind is far more than a set of skills. It explains how cunnilingus helps you feel connected with your partner (whether you are the giver or the receiver) and how to enrich that experience.

Should every woman over 30 try being a cougar?

That's what this week's sex diarist thinks! She's 32 and with a 20-year-old guy.

Last week's diary was "The Lesbian Couple Trying to Scare the Straight People in Provincetown"

If these inspire you to write your own, either for the online series or to be considered for the 2013 book of sex diaries I'm editing for Ten Speed Press, email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and feel free to pass this on! To be considered for the book, I'd need your full 7-day diary by September 30th. Thank you for all your referrals, they've been very helpful.

I want your sex diaries!

Now seems like a good time to remind you that I need more sex diarists for the book of all original sex diaries, out in 2013 from Ten Speed Press (yes, it pays). Ideally looking for people outside NYC, SF and Seattle but I'm open, also need more single people, men, people over 40, political conservatives, people with non-desk jobs and someone to write a Burning Man sex diary for the book (those are just some of the people I'm looking for, but I'm pretty open). First, read a few sex diaries so you know the style and what I'm looking for, then if you're still interested, email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you'd make a good candidate and I'll send you more info.

A golden shower in the shower and Flavorwire wants you to read Women in Lust

I edit the weekly Sex Diaries at Daily Intel, and am always on the lookout for outspoken anonymous literary exhibitionist types to write one (yes, it pays). If you're interested, email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you'd make a good diarist - you don't have to be in NYC and definitely don't have to be a writer (I'd actually love to see some offbeat professions in the diaries, if you know anyone who'd fit the bill).

This week's diary is "The Publicist Whose Breasts Are the Perfect Size to Be Peed On" and last week's was "The Lesbian Whose Dreams Are Much Dirtier Than Her Sex Life".

And a lovely boost for my book Women in Lust, the one with the hottest of my 40+ covers, in my opinion, a plug from Flavorwire on their list of "10 Risqué Books Worth Buying a Kindle to Read". They say:

Women in Lust is a kind of celebration of female sexuality. The twenty short pieces of erotica revolve around the theme of (you guessed it) lust, and the boundaries it allows people to cross. Being an anthology, it offers a little bit of everything (including romance), but the book definitely leans toward the submissive hetero female, à la Anastasia Steele from Fifty Shades of Grey. Just so you know what you’re getting into.

Mommy blogger sex diary

This week's sex diary (I'm the editor): "The Single Mommy Blogger Having Sex on Office Tabletops".

Enjoy! And if you want to write an anonymous sex diary for Daily Intel or know someone who'd be a good candidate, contact me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you'd be a good one (or pass on the link above).

Sex diary: panties, pee, hotel sex, phone sex and more!

This week's sex diary: "The Female Attorney Overnighting Her Panties to Her Lover" - this week's is very lively, and I've got some fascinating ones lined up soon, including parent sex. Yes, parents have sex. I'm sure you know that, but I like to read about it. Interested in writing an anonymous sex diary? I'm the editor, and you can email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you'd make a great candidate. Or just enjoy the diaries, and the comments! Seriously, and this is me speaking as a reader, not an editor, the comments are hilarious, like this one: "3. Regarding you getting excited over your divorce so you can be with this Miami dude...you are on some fairy princess la la la bullshit right now. You can name all the ingredients of a bag of Funyons quicker than you can tell me one damn thing about this cat. Everything you know about him you Facebook stalked. It's funny, but you're grown enough to know there are other fish in the sea and sh*t so I imagine you know you're on that Tinkerbell bullshit too."

Sex diary: "The Gay Law Clerk Fantasizing About JFK in the White House Pool"

This week's sex diary: "The Gay Law Clerk Fantasizing About JFK in the White House Pool" >br>
This week's sex diary, with a nod to Mimi Alford's JFK memoir Once Upon a Secret. I edit these weekly anonymous sex diaries; want to write one? (You don't have to be in NYC). Email sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me in a few sentences why you'd make a good diarist, and feel free to pass that on. Thanks!

Sex diary: Hipster sex in Williamsburg

I edit the weekly sex diaries for Daily Intel, New York magazine's news blog. If you're interested in writing one (you don't have to be in NYC), email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you'd make a good anonymous sex diarist (it's not about how much sex you're having, but why you're doing it, what you're doing, what makes you stand out - do read a few diaries to get a feel for what they're about if you're new to the diaries); also looking for a married couple to write separate diaries for a week.

This week's diary: "The Williamsburg Travel Editor Who Thinks Hipsters Are Sexy"

Gay sex diary

This week's sex diary: "The Gay Corporate Strategist Wondering If He Has Daddy Issues"

There was all sorts of slang like GUD and NE LAC in this week’s sex diary that I had to ask what it was. I totally thought they would be gay sex slang but actually they’re universal. Read the diary to find out what they are and if you’d like to write an anonymous sex diary for nymag.com email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you’d make a good diarist.

Best Sex Writing 2012 praise, sex diary, iPhone essay and photos

A few things to share (though for faster linkage, try my Facebook fan page, and yes I know that sounds pretentious, sorry, or add me Google+).

My new book, the one with the buy one get one free from me offer through this Friday, Best Sex Writing 2012, was named by Creative Loafing Atlanta "one of the top 10 most provocative books out this month."



This week's sex diary (I'm the editor): "The 'Terrible Girlfriend' Making the Most of Holiday Sex" and last week's in case I didn't link to it: "The Marketing Consultant Getting a Blowjob at His Parents' House for Christmas."

I wrote an essay for Open Salon called "My iPhone Photos (all 5,000 of Them), Myself" along with some of those photos, like this one:



And over at Romance Divas I'm the Author of the Month, with an accompanying interview about Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples, which will be published this month and I'm very excited about! Read 16 hot excerpts here.



And last but not least: 11 Cupcakes I Liked in 2011! and Top 10 Cupcakes Take the Cake posts of 2011.


s'mores cupcake


Samoa cupcakes


Andes mint cupcake

Sex Diary

This week's sex diary (details at the bottom on how to apply to be a diarist): "The Queer San Francisco Woman Having Group Sex in New York"

I loved that I saw the URL first in my "Hitachi Magic Wand" Google Alert!

Sample comment: "Is my vagina supposed to hurt after reading this?"

Sex diary!

This week's sex diary: "The 26-Year-Old Woman Screwing Her Ex in a Public Bathroom.

We've all screwed an ex, right? Well, I have, that's for sure. I've never screwed an ex in a public bathroom. A current...um, possibly (not recently though, but 2003? yes indeed).

Sex Diary: "The Bisexual LA Woman Getting off on Game of Thrones and Suicide Girls"

Proud editing moment with this week's sex diary: Even though I've never seen Game of Thrones, I knew how it was spelled (not "The" Game of Thrones). It's the little things, right? I hope you like this sex diary and if you have an exciting sex life or know someone who does who might want to write about it anonymously, email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com with a little more about your situation and I'll be in touch.

"The Bisexual LA Woman Getting off on Game of Thrones and Suicide Girls"

I want your sex diary!

After you've read a few of the weekly Sex Diaries I edit, if you think you have an interesting story and want to write one (and remember, it's quality and what your take is on your sex life, not just how much sex you're having), email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me a little about why you'd be a good diarist, along with your age, location, occupation, gender, sexual orientation and relationship status, and I'll be in touch with details. Please pass this on to anyone who might want to write one (it pays). I'd especially love to see an Occupy Wall Street sex diary, but we are always looking for diaries across the sexual spectrum (especially if you don't think you/your peer group's been represented thus far in the diaries). Thank you!

Burning Man Sex Diary

Whether you've been to Burning Man or not, you'll want to read this glitter-filled wedding proposal Burning Man sex diary.

As always, if you're a New Yorker with an interesting sex life and want to write a paid, anonymous sex diary, email me at sexdiaries at nymag.com and tell me why you'd be a good diarist.

Sex diaries!

I think I forgot to blog last week's so here are two sex diaries from Daily Intel (I'm the editor) for you:

The Woman With Two Lovers Back-to-Back Who Doesn't Change the Sheets

The Administrative Assistant Learning How to Use a 'Spreader Bar'

Sex Diary: To schedule Sex Dates or Not?

This week's sex diary at Daily Intel, "The Personal Assistant Deciding Whether to Schedule Sex Dates," is about a couple trying to have more sex - whether they succeed or not you will have to read the diary. (I edit these, fyi, which is why I post them every week. Sometimes people ask if I've written them and I'm like, "I'd have a totally different life if I wrote some of these.")

It made me think about the fact that I've never scheduled sex, but I do think, especially in New York, finding the time for dates, with or without sex, even when you want to see the person you're seeing, is hard. I have trouble with overscheduling and would daresay another vice, of a sort, is filling my calendar with things to do. A friend introduced me to a new cafe in my neighborhood and is basically planting himself there to finish his book and I'm gonna try to work off that energy. Anyway, sex scheduling...read more about it in the diary. I think maybe it's something easy to mock but if it works for people, why not?