"Yes, Fat Women Are Sexy" is my latest at DAME

It's one thing to write something in the plain old Times New Roman font I use in a Microsoft Word document, and another to see it in bold type on a website I contribute to. My first instinct when I saw "Yes, Fat Women Are Sexy" was to think, Duh. I mean, obvious town, right? But it's still something that needs to be said and reinforced with word and image, and the women I spoke to and quoted, namely April Flores (about her soon to launch site Fat Girl Fantasies), Substantia Jones, Kitty Stryker and Brittany Gibbons, are doing just that. Please check it out, and see the full archive of my DAME columns here. Suggestions for future topics related to women and sex? Email me at rachelkb at gmail dot com with "DAME" in the subject line.

"How to Come Out Like a Porn Star" Q&A with genderqueer porn star Jiz Lee at Salon

My latest at Salon is a Q&A with genderqueer porn star Jiz Lee about their forthcoming anthology How to Come Out Like a Porn Star. As I say in my introduction, although the book is specifically about coming out about involvement with porn, I think the book has larger relevance for those who deal with sex in their work or have any sort of sexual secret (or really, any secret) they want to come out about. Thanks for reading.

Former porn star Jennie Ketcham talks sex addiction, masturbation and healthy relationships

I interviewed Jennie Ketcham, author of the new memoir I Am Jennie and formerly known as porn star Penny Flame, about sex addiction, masturbation, reality TV, healthy relationships, female friendships and more at The Daily Beast. Here's one of the questions she answers: "Your recovery process for sex addiction included not masturbating, and making a masturbation trigger list. Why was that one of your rules?"

The NYC porn party you don't want to miss: March 22nd, Rough Sex #3: Adrianna's Dangerous Mind

As soon as I can cobble together my notes (umm...will try for this week) from yesterday's ethical porn panel at Cinekink, I will. Porn stars Jiz Lee, Adrianna Nicole and Sinnamon Love were smart, engaging and the clips we saw from several of Tristan Taormino's films made me very eager to see this movie and attend the release party. Click here to order it direct from Tristan and, through March 21st, get it at $10 off the retail price and a poster autographed by Adrianna Nicole.

And if you're a Tristan Taormino fan, you can follow her on Twitter (@tristantaormino) and Tumblr.



Details from the official site:

Tristan Taormino's Rough Sex 3: Adrianna's Dangerous Mind

Directed by Tristan Taormino

Starring: Adrianna Nicole, Jada Fire, Jiz Lee, Evan Stone, Danny Wylde, Nat Turnher, Keni Styles, Ramon Nomar, Prince Yahsura and Steve Holmes

The third installment of the AVN Award nominated series is an unprecedented collaboration between award-winning author and filmmaker Tristan Taormino and performer Adrianna Nicole.

She creates the scenes. She chooses her partners. She controls what happens. Watch as Adrianna shares her most intimate fantasies, tests her own boundaries, and rides the seductive line between pleasure and pain. Witness her explosive sexuality at its most extreme: raw, rough, and real. See if one person can satiate her oral fixation, why money is a strange bedfellow, how a mean Mistress takes her to the edge, what happens when four men give her a workout, and what dangers lurk in a dark alley. See what's inside Adrianna's dangerous mind...

DVD Features: Motion Menus, Scene Selection, Chapter Selection, Mini-Feature on Safer Sex, Three Bonus Sex Scenes. Shot in high definition, DVD ROM compatible, no regional coding.
Available on DVD only.
Running Time: Feature: 169 minutes, Extras: 55 minutes (Nearly 4 hours!)
Produced by: Smart Ass Productions and Vivid Entertainment
Release date: March 21, 2011

Official March 22nd release party details (and goody bag sponsors!)

Meet Adrianna Nicole, Jiz Lee, Danny Wylde,
director Tristan Taormino
and other special guests
Sip on the signature cocktail of the evening
inspired by Adrianna's favorite toy
Get your free poster signed by the stars
See a sneak preview of the third installment
of the critically-acclaimed series

Tuesday, March 22, 7-10 pm
at Fontana's
105 Eldridge Street (between Grand & Broome)
NYC

My sex writing panel with porn star Ashley Blue

If you're in LA, do come join us at the West Hollywood Book Fair September 26th.

“Let’s Talk About Sex: Porn, Erotica and Everything in Between” (1:15-2:15pm)

Rachel Resnick (Moderator)

Rachel Kramer Bussel, Adrian Colesberry, Larry Duplechan, Orianna Small

SEX. Now that we have your attention….this panel features/Rachel Kramer Bussel (“Best Sex Writing 2010”), a highly acclaimed erotica writer whose works have appeared in over 100 anthologies; first time author Adrian Colesberry (“How to Make Love to Adrian Colesberry”); Orianna Small (AKA porn star Ashley Blue), self proclaimed “girl-pervert” and author of the memoir “Girlvert”; and fiction and gay erotica author Larry Duplechan (“Got ‘til it’s Gone”). The panel will be moderated by the lively and talented Rachel Resnick (“Love, Junkie”).

Porn star and slut readings by Kerry Cohen and Diana Joseph

These are readings from the September 2009 In The Flesh (next one is Sex and Comedy night October 15th, then big blowout 4 year anniversary night with prizes November 19th). I will post others soon. And yes, of course I'm being somewhat tongue in cheek with those descriptions, yet the readings really are about, respectively, Kerry Cohen being her lover's own personal porn star and Diana Joseph reading from "The Girl Who Only Sometimes Said No" about sluttiness. Enjoy!



"They want to fuck nasty, and that's exactly what I want too." (on Army boys and a fuck buddy she met on Facebook)

Kerry Cohen reading from "Porn Star"



"You can't just call a girl a slut and not explain what you mean by it."

Diana Joseph reads from "The Girl Who Only Sometimes Said No" from her memoir I'm Sorry You Feel That Way: The Astonishing but True Story of a Daughter, Sister, Slut, Wife, Mother, and Friend to Man and Dog - this is one of my favorite pieces of writing EVER, and will be reprinted in the my forthcoming anthology Best Sex Writing 2010 (which Kerry Cohen has a piece in under a pseudonym as well, more on that later)

Here's a little followup video interview shot the next day by me with Diana Joseph on sluttiness:



And here's a photo of me and my boobs sandwiched between them (I have since realized this dress works MUCH better sans bra, sorry everyone!).


photo by Anya Garrett

Hear Nina Hartley tonight at In The Flesh: LA

I am really jealous of all you LA folks - you get the new Johnny Cupcakes store opening on Saturday and the chance to see Nina Hartley tonight for Surprises night at In The Flesh: LA.

For our third go-around, we’ve poached from all different kinds of mediums to bring you an incredible, eclectic mix of writers, authors and performers ready and willing to open up to you. The theme of the evening is “Surprises” as expressed by Marty Barrett (Fleshbot), who routinely circles the adult industry with a clever turn of phrase; Seth Greenland (Shining City), whose latest novel will have you trying to peek into your drycleaner’s back room; Nina Hartley (Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex), who – quite simply – is a porn legend; Jeff Miller (Thrillist), who helps tip dudes on what’s cool; and Colleen Wainwright (Communicatrix), who has braved internet dating tools and live to tell the tale both humorously and eloquently. Author’s books will also be on sale.

In the Flesh: L.A. (the West coast version of In The Flesh founded by Rachel Kramer Bussel) is a monthly reading series held the last Thursday of every month at Freddy and Eddy, and features the city's best journalists, authors, scriptwriters and more offering their torrid tales for your entertainment and titillation, hosted and curated by writer/editor Carly Milne (Sexography, Hooking Up, Naked Ambition). From secret dirty confessions to unique sexual insights (and even the odd embarrassment or two), these writers get naked on the page and will make you lust after them and their words. Complimentary cookies and cupcakes are courtesy of Schmerty's. The event is free, but a suggested $10 door fee will be donated to the Rape and Incest National Network. In The Flesh: L.A. debuted in May 2008.