Why dating tech guys is the worst and Bay Area Peter Pan Syndrome at Elle.com

My latest sex interview for Elle.com is about dating in the Bay Area and men who don't want to grow up (my interviewee cooked dinner for a guy who left early to go have sex with someone else). I'm on the lookout for more women to interview! Some topics I'd like to discuss: sex and dating when you travel often for work, sex after abortion, sex while dealing with illness, any momentous sexual first times, your experience with female ejaculation, preferring sex toys over partner sex, and sex when you have a very specific fetish, but I'm open to pretty much anything else, especially subjects I haven't covered yet. Email me at ellesexstories at gmail.com and tell me about yourself and what you'd want to discuss and if you know any women who might be open to talking to me, please pass this on.

West Coast book tour is this week: Berkeley, San Francisco, Los Angeles! All free, all with free cupcakes, and hot, hot stories.

I'll be doing a separate post about my 3 New York City events in February, but as a reminder, unless I'm already traveling or have a special occasion like a panel, this is my last year of doing a bazillion outside readings. I just can't pretend like I can afford them or that I'm rich, and it doesn't make financial sense to be running all over the country when I could be working smarter, better and trying to sell more books. So my point is: come see me in Berkeley, San Francisco and Los Angeles now! I'm hoping to get to a few other cities like Denver, Minneapolis and Milwaukee in 2011 as well, fingers crossed.

A reminder with Facebook links - I'd really love it if you'd spread the word. All these events are free, it's a chance to get the just-released Gotta Have It signed by me and contributors (Denise Hoffner, who wrote census taker erotica story "Concensus" in Gotta Have It, has been added to Thursday's Berkeley Good Vibrations reading) and I'm getting fabulous, unique cupcakes, different ones from different local bakers, for each event.

Saturday night I will also make my third appearance on The Dr. Susan Block Show - listen online! Saturday night, January 29th, 10:30 pm to midnight, PST, I'll be on with Shameless author Pamela Madsen - my interview with her will be up soon at SexIs Magazine.



January 27, 6:30-8 pm
READING AND EROTICA ADVICE WITH DONNA GEORGE STOREY
Join me and prolific local erotica writer Donna George Storey (author, Amorous Woman, contributor, Orgasmic, Gotta Have It) and Gotta Have It contributor Denise Hoffner as we read some of our favorite erotica and share erotic writing advice. Free!
Good Vibrations, 2504 San Pablo Avenue (at Dwight Way), Berkeley, CA
510-841-8987

Facebook invite (no need to RSVP though, but if you want to pass it on to friends)

January 28, 7:30 pm
READING WITH VIOLET BLUE AT BOOKSMITH



Me and superstar author and editor Violet Blue read along with Orgasmic contributors Susie Hara, Dusty Horn and Donna George Storey!

Free cupcakes!

Booksmith, 1644 Haight Street, San Francisco, CA
415-863-8688

Facebook invite (no need to RSVP though, but if you want to pass it on to friends)

February 1, 7 pm
COCO DE MER READING



Join me along with Eden Bradley (The Lovers), Pamela Madsen (Shameless) and Oriana Small, aka Ashley Blue (Girlvert) for a night of hot readings and free champagne and cupcakes in this beautiful setting!
At Coco de Mer, 8618 Melrose Avenue, Los Angeles, CA
310-652-0311

Facebook invite (no need to RSVP though, but if you want to pass it on to friends)

Wish I were in town for this

I really hope Ericka brings this show to NYC! In happy news, I booked my tickets (thanks Orbitz and Virgin America) for NYC to SF and then SF to LA, will book the rest tomorrow...when my check clears. My new six-word memoir is indeed "Waiting For The Check To Clear" since that feels like all I do these days. Am in full promo mode as I keep my fingers crossed my college paper The Daily Californian will cover my Bay Area readings and scout out Bay Area vegan cupcakes to bring to Booksmith and plot other event fabulousness to make the price of those plane tickets worth it!

From Brown Paper Tickets:

Solo Sundays - 1/23/11
San Francisco, CA

This month we feature two Solo Sundays favorites:

A W I D O W ' S T O D O L I S T
>>> written and performed by Ericka Lutz
When she got married, Ericka Lutz didn't want to say the "'til death do us part" part. Twenty years later - BOOM! - sudden widowhood! Then grief, absurdity, skin-hunger, tattoos. And who knew that Love and Death came with a side order of so-much-to-do? A Widow's To-Do List is a solo performance about death, but more so, it's about life after a tragedy, and a complicated, contemporary marriage.

***** FREE TICKETS *****
In honor of the Ericka Lutz's show A WIDOWS TO DO LIST, we are offering a free ticket to any widow/widower who would like to see the show. Just send a note with your first and last name and A WIDOWS TO DO LIST to brupach@gmail.com and we'll confirm your request.

L A D Y P A R T S
>>> written and performed by Martha Rynberg
Martha's talking about the unmentionables, the secret spots. No, not on her body* but within her mind. All the trappings of being a woman don't leave her a lot of space - and "Lady Parts" is about trying to see how it all fits together. How can she make it from daughterhood to motherhood, without hating herself or the women and girls around her?

* ok, there may be a few body references....

S O L O S U N D A Y S
Hilarious, Heartbreaking & Provocative Solo Performances
Solo Sundays, S.F.'s premier monthly showcase, presents select samplings of veteran virtuosos and top emerging talent in the intimate StageWerx theater near Union Square. Beyond stand-up and storytelling, solo theater creates casts of thousands - plus special effects - all bursting from a single performer. The results are hilarious and heartbreaking, passionate and provocative, ablaze with personal visions.