Philadelphia dominatrix profile in this week's Philadelphia City Paper sex column

For my Philadelphia City Paper sex column this week, I profiled Philadelphia dominatrix Domina Devorah, talking about what her clients are like, favorite sessions, feminism and more. As always, especially since this is a weekly column, I welcome topic suggestions of people, pop culture news, events, fetishes, issues, etc. for future columns at rachelkb at gmail.com with "City Paper" in the subject line.


above photo by brickxbirch

And I forgot to share how happy I am that last week's pubic hair/Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue column made it onto the cover!

Black Coffee Poet shows She's on Top some love, with sexy photos

Check out the Black Coffee Poet 3-part ode to my BDSM anthology She's on Top, including a review, interview with super sexy dominant female hotness, and a video reading!

She's on Top review

Interview with me about erotica, writing, feminism and more, plus hot BDSM photo essay including bondage and a hot female foot on male face tribute to the cover!

Video reading from She's on Top

"My Domme Side" - new Secrets of a Sex Writer column at SexIs Magazine

My latest Secrets of a Sex Writer column at SexIs Magazine (free print copies tomorrow night at In The Flesh!) is called "My Domme Side."



Planning our kinky date was also a good reminder to me that being a top can be challenging but also extremely rewarding. I wouldn’t say it comes naturally to me, but accessing the side of myself that enjoys seeing someone else squirm, beg and relish my control arouses me and gives me a confidence I don’t always have.

It’s more challenging, in some ways, than being a sub, in my experience. When I’m in a submissive role with a partner, my job is to do what they say. Get on my knees, be quiet, not wear panties? Done, done and done. But when I’m the one in charge of planning and figuring out what I want someone else to do for me, it’s tricky. First, I have to recognize that I’m never going to be the really mean domme who just enjoys tormenting someone for the hell of it. I like tormenting someone because—though they might cry out in pain—deep down I know they like it.

I would much rather praise someone for being good, for following my commands, then punish them for being bad. Maybe that’s ironic because when I’m the bottom, I like both being the bratty bad girl who doesn’t know how to listen and needs to be reprimanded and being told how good I am.

Read the whole column.

Previous Secrets of a Sex Writer columns:

Girl Crushes, Bisexuality and Bi-Curiousness (which I realized later should probably read "Bi-curiosity")

My "Trendy" Post-Breakup Celibacy (obviously that whole celibacy thing didn't work out for me)

"Are Your Breasts Real?" and Other Questions Not to Ask a Sex Writer