Cock and balls doughnut at Voodoo Doughnut

I loved the Voodoo Doughnut in Eugene, Oregon - no line, unlike the Portland version, and you can sit inside or out, and there's pinball. And, of course, amazing donuts, like this:



Also cute:



And these are the ones I tried - whoa! I shared the bottom banana/peanut butter/chocolate one with two strangers. I ate enough of it to feel a little ill...it was amazing. Doughy and coffee-cake-cinnamon-swirl-like inside, with chocolate and peanut butter and chocolate chips on top and banana inside. Totally worth it.



See more of my Voodoo Doughnut photos here.

And Eugene was gorgeous:

First Best Sex Writing 2010 reading, Eugene, Oregon

We had a lovely reception last night at Tsunami Books in Eugene, Oregon, where I read the introduction to Best Sex Writing 2010, Janet Hardy read "The Portal" about cunts, I read Kirk Read's AMAZING essay "It's a Shame About Ray" and Kerry Cohen read her essay "The Anatomy of An Affair" and talked about her now-open marriage. We had a Q&A following the reading that covered everything from sexual outlaws to The Vagina Monologues and sexuality and morality. We had a pretty good crowd because of the Eugene Weekly review -fingers crossed for good turnouts tonight in Portland and tomorrow in Seattle. I don't think most readings feature free cupcakes plus we're a pretty feisty, powerful group.

Photos:


Loose Girl author Kerry Cohen, The Ethical Slut co-author Janet Hardy and me





February 22, 7:30-8:30 pm

Best Sex Writing 2010 reading
Featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel and contributors Kerry Cohen, writing as Michelle Perrot, reading from "Anatomy of an Affair," about the affair she plans to have and the difference between married sex and an affair, and Janet Hardy, reading from "The Portal," about cunts and their relationship to sexuality. FREE and free cupcakes!
Powell's Books
1005 W. Burnside, Portland, Oregon
Info: 503-228-4651

February 23, 7:00 pm

Best Sex Writing 2010 reading
Featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel and contributors Kerry Cohen, writing as Michelle Perrot, reading from "Anatomy of an Affair," about the affair she plans to have and the difference between married sex and an affair, and Janet Hardy, reading from "The Portal," about cunts and their relationship to sexuality. Free and free custom cupcakes from Trophy Cupcakes.
Elliott Bay Book Company, 101 South Main Street, Seattle, WA 98104

Affair sex vs. married sex from "Anatomy of an Affair" by Kerry Cohen

Hear Kerry Cohen (writing as Michelle Perrot) read from this piece and talk about the aftermath tonight, tomorrow and Tuesday in Eugene, Portland and Seattle. I'll post my Q&A with her ASAP because it's fascinating and I'm SO proud to have published this original, not-seen-anywhere-else piece in Best Sex Writing 2010. I hope we get a big showing from poly people because I think outspoken, proud people who are willing to grapple publicly with what it means to reject our fucked up culture of compulsory monogamy are truly sexual outlaws, which is the theme of the anthology. Actually, scratch that - it's the general public who needs to hear voices like Kerry's, to understand that you can be married, be a good mom, be a smart, savvy person and still opt out of monogamy and (OMG!) be happy.





From "Anatomy of an Affair" by Kerry Cohen:

I don’t want 1950s-style advice about “date nights” and lingerie and role-playing. I don’t want to “spice up my marriage.” I want rough sex. Dirty, spit in his mouth sex. Wet, disgusting, nasty talk about pussies and cum and fuck-me sex. The kind of hate fucking where afterward you can’t move. And the bottom line is that I don’t want that kind of sex with my husband, this man I love.

For a number of years, of course, I assumed I would forgo this sort of sex. It was worth it to keep my marriage intact. Marriage is about compromise. It’s about some degree of sacrifice. Honestly, if what I would have to sacrifice were something other than the sort of sex that most fills me, I’d be happy to oblige. But sexual desire is so intensely personal, so completely something you don’t control. I can’t just decide that I will no longer crave that sort of sex, and our desires don’t always fit well with the monogamy our culture demands.

The running psychological theory is that we eroticize what has shamed, hurt, or frightened us, that our “lovemap cartographic systems,” as described by John Money, the famous John Hopkins psychologist, are learned. If that’s true, it could be argued that I spent my childhood feeling helpless, unable to control the ways in which my parents emotionally wounded me. As the years went by I tried to control the world where it felt out of control. I pursued men vigorously. I yelled at them when they hurt me, tried to force them into being who I wanted them to be. These were the men I had the best sex with, the ones who wanted to make clear who was really in charge once we got in the bedroom, the kind who made me go blind mid-orgasm, who told me my pussy was so wet and their cocks were aching with need for me, who smacked my ass while we did it from behind. These were the kind of men I never would have married. I wanted to get married, to share my life with someone.

I chose my husband because he was not one of these men.

Read the entire essay in Best Sex Writing 2010, which is for sale from publisher Cleis Press and:




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My events: Portland, Eugene, Seattle, NYC, Minneapolis

Sorry if these are out of order - I'm in Portland, off to the Apple Store to buy a new iPhone. Yes, that's how the last few days have been. It's probably in my apartment but I went to work, went back home to look for it, couldn't find it and almost missed my plane...which was then delayed by 2 hours thanks to JetBlue so I made it. Follow along in real time once I get a new phone on Twitter.

Cupcakes Take the Cake Meetup
Saturday, February 20, 2-4 pm
Saint Cupcake
407 nw 17th ave @ flanders
portland oregon 97209
503-473-8760
Note: Special discount rate just for us. Say you're part of the cupcake meetup and you'll get dots for $1 for dots and full-size cupcakes for $2 each.

Cupcakes Take the Cake Meetup
Thursday, February 25, 6-8 pm
Trophy Cupcakes (Wallingford Center)
1815 N. 45th Street, Suite 209
Seattle, Washington
206-632-7020
This one even has a Facebook page.

Cupcakes Take the Cake Meetup
Sunday, February 28, 3-5 pm
Cupcake
3338 University Ave. SE.
Minneapolis, MN 55414
612-378-4818

Note: Seattle reading starts at 7, not 7:30. Be there for the Trophy Cupcakes cupcakes with my photo on them!!!

February 21, 6-7 pm

Reading from Best Sex Writing 2010 (Cleis Press)
featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel and contributors Kerry Cohen, writing as Michelle Perrot, reading from "Anatomy of an Affair," about the affair she plans to have and the difference between married sex and an affair, and Janet Hardy, reading from "The Portal," about cunts and their relationship to sexuality. FREE.

Tsunami Books
2585 Willamette Street, Eugene, OR 97405-3132

Info: 541-345-8986

February 22, 7:30-8:30 pm

Reading from Best Sex Writing 2010 (Cleis Press)
featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel and contributors Kerry Cohen, writing as Michelle Perrot, reading from "Anatomy of an Affair," about the affair she plans to have and the difference between married sex and an affair, and Janet Hardy, reading from "The Portal," about cunts and their relationship to sexuality. FREE and free cupcakes!

Powell's Books
1005 W. Burnside, Portland, Oregon

Info: 503-228-4651

February 23, 7:00 pm

Best Sex Writing 2010 reading


Featuring editor Rachel Kramer Bussel and contributors Kerry Cohen, writing as Michelle Perrot, reading from "Anatomy of an Affair," about the affair she plans to have and the difference between married sex and an affair, and Janet Hardy, reading from "The Portal," about cunts and their relationship to sexuality. FREE.

Elliott Bay Book Company
101 South Main Street, Seattle, WA 98104

February 27, 2-4 pm
Erotic Writing Workshop Taught by Rachel Kramer Bussel
Shag, 108 Roebling (at N. 6th), Williamsburg, Brooklyn
Acclaimed erotica author and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel (Bottoms Up, Spanked, Peep Show, The Mile High Club) teaches an erotic writing workshop covering characterization, point of view, selling your work and more. Bring pen/paper or laptop for in-class exercises. Includes handouts and free cupcakes.
Admission: $20
Info: 347-721-3302
Email: weloveshag@gmail.com
URL: http://www.weloveshag.com

March 2, 5:30 pm - 7:30 pm

Best Sex Writing 2010 book party

Join Best Sex Writing 2010 editor Rachel Kramer Bussel and local contributor Diana Joseph, author of I’m Sorry You Feel That Way, for a reading and book party. The book collects the best sex journalism and essays of the year on topics ranging from teen sexting to penis size to the world's thinnest condoms to voyeurism, swinging, Tijuana bibles, sex work, crazy sex laws and Twilight as "abstinence porn," all centered on the them of sexual outlaws. Co-sponsored by Smitten Kitten; books will be available for sale and sex toys will be raffled off. Music by erotic bluegrass band Courtney McClean and The Dirty Curls; free cupcakes by Cake Eater Bakery.

Bedlam Theatre
1501 S. 6th St., Minneapolis

March 6, 2-4 pm
Erotic Writing Workshop Taught by Rachel Kramer Bussel
Shag, 108 Roebling (at N. 6th), Williamsburg, Brooklyn
Acclaimed erotica author and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel (Bottoms Up, Spanked, Peep Show, The Mile High Club) teaches an erotic writing workshop covering characterization, point of view, selling your work and more. Bring pen/paper or laptop for in-class exercises. Includes handouts and free cupcakes.
Admission: $20
Info: 347-721-3302
Email: weloveshag@gmail.com
URL: http://www.weloveshag.com