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Friday, March 19, 2010

The final word on "porn for women"

By which I don't mean porn aimed at women but the Porn for Women series of books I wrote about in 2007 at The Huffington Post in "Is There Such a Thing as 'Porn for Women?'"

I found the book slightly amusing at first, then rather annoying in its simplistic take on what's truly a complex topic: how equally does or doesn't play out in our daily lives. Firstly, the word "straight," as it often is when it comes to the catchall phrase "women," is implied. Second, the book deals with an array of common complaints by women about men ─ they're obsessed with sports, don't cook or do enough chores, skimp out on foreplay ─ that could just as easily read as clichés. It's a greatest hits compilation of the unequal division of labor, yet to me, something about it rings false. Perhaps because the wink-wink assumption behind the satire is that men wouldn't or don't really do these tasks, and if they do, it's in such a grandiose way they aren't just performing the chores, but are thrilled about it. I know plenty of self-sufficient men who are far neater than I am (admittedly, not a high standard), and ones who share in childcare and housework. Maybe they don't love every minute of it, but who does?



xkcd (via Feministing)

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