I wrote about gender and apologizing and my penchant for saying sorry when I shouldn't for DAME, and how it feels to be on the receiving end of it. It's made me think a lot about how much I devalue myself when I unnecessarily apologize, as well as when I kowtow to people I shouldn't, even people I hate. I do it more often than I'd like, and ultimately, it's ridiculous because no one can ever give you back your power or self-esteem or self-worth once you so freely give it away. The past two years especially have been about me working to actually forgive myself for bad decisions in that area, for all the automatic yeses that should've been nos, for saying to myself, every day, in big and small ways, that I believe in myself. I spent such a long time wanting to be like by others at all costs that I forgot that if I did that at the expense of who I am at my core, I'd lose the essence of what makes me me and be left with nothing. Emotionally, I was, and I hit rock bottom just about two years in that area and am grateful I've learned and grown and can stand up for myself better than I could back then. It's a constant struggle, with various people in my life, from those closest to me to complete strangers, which is why I related so much to the Wendy Wasserstein quote I used in this piece, which I must credit my local Two River Theater for including in their program for her play Third. I read it as I was writing the piece and it resonated with me.
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My 61st and, I believe, very best anthology, out now in print and ebook!
Read more about Best Women's Erotica of the Year, Volume 1!
22 very sexy stories by and about women, from authors including L. Marie Adeline
and Tiffany Reisz!
Out now in print and ebook, my new BDSM erotica book! Find out more about Dirty Dates: Erotic Fantasies for Couples
and through November 30th, get a free ebook from me when you buy the ebook!
I'm beyond excited for the release of Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, out now!
Nipple clamps, remote controlled vibrators, butt plugs, vegetables, ice and so much more
Visit comeagainbook.com for the intro & table of contents and Q&As with the contributors.
Order it now in print and ebook.
Best Bondage Erotica 2015 is out now in print and ebook!
Buy it on Amazon or your favorite bookstore.
My favorite of my audiobooks, read by the wondrous Rose Caraway, are
The Big Book of Orgasms, Gotta Have It and the brand new The Big Book of Submission!
Listen to free audio erotica samples:
The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories
Gotta Have It: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex
The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales
Make sure to read Cupcakes Take the Cake for your daily fix of cupcakes!
Watch me talk & eat cupcakes on The Gayle King Show!
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my Shameless Sex column runs every other Wednesday at DAME
My essay collection Sex & Cupcakes is out now on Kindle and iBooks!
Classic & brand new essays such as "Wearing My Tattooed Heart on My Sleeve," "My Boyfriend's Fat," "Champagne Sex" & "Monogamishmash."
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Hungry for More: Romantic Fantasies for Women - just published! With stories by Tiffany Reisz, Greta Christina, D.L. King and more. 21 fantasies, from "Kitchen Slut" to a cougar to Craigslist sex to BDSM to bukkake to watching two men get it on, and more!
The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales (click for excerpts)
Flying High: Sexy Stories from the Mile High Club (click to read intro and TOC)
The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories (click to read intro and TOC)
Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica (click to read intro and TOC)
Cheeky Spanking Stories
Women in Lust: Erotic Stories
BDSM stories in Surrender: Erotic Tales of Female Pleasure and Submission
Gotta Have It: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex - click here to watch the trailer!
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Fast Girls: Erotica for Women
Featuring Kayla Perrin, Tristan Taormino, Isabelle Gray, Cherry Bomb & more!
Click to read introduction and watch the bubble bath book trailer!
Please, Ma'am: Erotic Stories of Male Submission - out now!
Click to read introduction and table of contents
Please, Sir: Erotic Tales of Female Submission is available now!
Office sex, brats, spanking, bondage, erotic asphyxiation and more!
Click here to read the kinky introduction.
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Do Not Disturb: Hotel Sex Stories is out now!
Winner, Gold, 2010 IPPY (Independent Publisher) Awards, Erotica
Read the introduction and author interviews here
Watch the Do Not Disturb book trailer on YouTube
Listen to my Spanked story "The Depths of Despair" read by
Danielle A. Nelson on the Nobilis Erotica podcast
Oral sex erotica:
Tasting Him: Oral Sex Stories - read the introduction and buy the book here
Tasting Her: Oral Sex Stories - read the introduction here and buy the book here
Read Me (very old pieces)
"Anthologies 'R' Us," Mediabistro
"Three Little Words," Fresh Yarn
Interview with Tramps Like Us author Kristen Buckley, Memoirville.com
Interview with Baby Love author Rebecca Walker, Memoirville.com
"So What Do You Do?" interview with food critic/memoirist Gael Greene, Mediabistro
Published erotica writing samples
BooksSee all of the books I've edited or contributed to here
Yes, Ma'am: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance
see the website here
Yes, Sir: Erotic Stories of Male Dominance
see the website with TOC and info here
Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women
see the website with intro, blurbs, and TOC here
Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica
Read the introducation and table of contents for Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica here
Anthologies with my stories
Best Women's Erotica 2007 with my story "Animals" Click here to hear editor Violet Blue read it on her "Open Source Sex" podcast
Best Women's Erotica 2006 With my female domination story "Spike" Click here to hear editor Violet Blue read it on her "Open Source Sex" podcast