I don't know if blogs count as social media, so I may be contradicting myself in this sentence, but I'm doing my best to take a social media break this week, to take care of myself, to plan what I'm going to do when I hit what feels like the health insurance jackpot on January 1st by, you know, having health insurance, to try to take in a little bit less information, to continue the path of reducing, rather than adding to, the drama in my life (so not my natural inclination, it's like I'm having an internal war when I deny myself the chance to take one little peek at some of those URLs). It's hard to feel like following through on putting together a newsletter when you feel like what you're offering to the world is useless, when none of it seems to matter and it feels so nauseatingly "me me me buying my books" that I want to toss them all in a dumpster, along with everything else I own (also clearly not my natural inclination, but what happens when I get sick of navigating through it all). I'm not even at the fake it til I make it stage, but I'll get there, because that's how I pay my rent, which I'm grateful every single month I'm able to do. So that's what I'm examining, what I'm offering myself, where I'm supposed to be going, while getting later than planned holiday cards out and trying to make better choices than a lot of the ones I've made this year and figure out how to selfishly focus on work that I love that actually counts as income-generating work. One word at a time, which might be the best I can do. Just, offline, ones that I can be proud of even though I will probably be the only one to see them. Much as I am simply waiting for 2013 to get here, if this year has taught me anything, it's that life is short and who knows how long I or anyone I care about has left, so I can't afford to just tick off the seconds; I have to find a way to make them count. Not sure how, but...that's part of life too. I was going to say I'll return to my regular internet ways in the new year, but maybe I won't and will work on decluttering my online presence. I think it creates an overinflated sense of self-importance, at least for me, but it's also a necessity, so maybe away from it I can figure out how to balance those things.
Make sure to read Cupcakes Take the Cake for your daily fix of cupcakes!
Watch me talk & eat cupcakes on The Gayle King Show!
custom cupcakes by Seattle's Trophy Cupcakes
my weekly Let's Get It On sex column
runs every Thursday in Philadelphia City Paper
My essay collection Sex & Cupcakes is out now on Kindle!
Classic & brand new essays such as "Wearing My Tattooed Heart on My Sleeve," "My Boyfriend's Fat," "Champagne Sex" & "Monogamishmash."
Hungry for More: Romantic Fantasies for Women - just published! With stories by Tiffany Reisz, Greta Christina, D.L. King and more. 21 fantasies, from "Kitchen Slut" to a cougar to Craigslist sex to BDSM to bukkake to watching two men get it on, and more!
The Big Book of Submission: 69 Kinky Tales (click for excerpts)
Flying High: Sexy Stories from the Mile High Club (click to read intro and TOC)
Best Bondage Erotica 2014 (click to read intro and TOC)
Lust in Latex: Rubber Sex Stories (click to read intro and TOC)
The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories (click to read intro and TOC)
Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica (click to read intro and TOC)
Best Sex Writing 2013 featuring Jonathan Lethem, guest judge Carol Queen, Patrick Califia, Madison Young, Julia Serano and more!
10-story ebook Instruments of Pleasure: Sex Toy Erotica Buy on Kindle for $3.99 or Nook for $5.39
Twice the Pleasure: Bisexual Women's Erotica
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Serving Him: Sexy Stories of Submission (please like on Amazon)
Best Bondage Erotica 2013
Cheeky Spanking Stories
Anything for You: Erotica for Kinky Couples
Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples (click through to read excerpts)
Best Sex Writing 2012 with foreword by Susie Bright (click through to read intro)
Women in Lust: Erotic Stories
BDSM stories in Surrender: Erotic Tales of Female Pleasure and Submission
Gotta Have It: 69 Stories of Sudden Sex - click here to watch the trailer!
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Fast Girls: Erotica for Women
Featuring Kayla Perrin, Tristan Taormino, Isabelle Gray, Cherry Bomb & more!
Click to read introduction and watch the bubble bath book trailer!
Please, Ma'am: Erotic Stories of Male Submission - out now!
Click to read introduction and table of contents
Please, Sir: Erotic Tales of Female Submission is available now!
Office sex, brats, spanking, bondage, erotic asphyxiation and more!
Click here to read the kinky introduction.
Visit She Writes
Do Not Disturb: Hotel Sex Stories is out now!
Winner, Gold, 2010 IPPY (Independent Publisher) Awards, Erotica
Read the introduction and author interviews here
Watch the Do Not Disturb book trailer on YouTube
Listen to my Spanked story "The Depths of Despair" read by
Danielle A. Nelson on the Nobilis Erotica podcast
Oral sex erotica:
Tasting Him: Oral Sex Stories - read the introduction and buy the book here
Tasting Her: Oral Sex Stories - read the introduction here and buy the book here
Read Me (very old pieces)
"Anthologies 'R' Us," Mediabistro
"Three Little Words," Fresh Yarn
Interview with Tramps Like Us author Kristen Buckley, Memoirville.com
Interview with Baby Love author Rebecca Walker, Memoirville.com
"So What Do You Do?" interview with food critic/memoirist Gael Greene, Mediabistro
Published erotica writing samples
Yes, Ma'am: Erotic Stories of Male Submission blog
Yes, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission blog
Crossdressing: Erotic Stories blog
Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women on Wordpress
Best Sex Writing 2008 on Wordpress
Introduction to Hide and Seek: Showing Off In Style
Introduction to Crossdressing: Erotic Stories, "Crossing Boundaries and Bending Genders"
Introduction to Naughty Spanking Stories from A to Z 2
Fleshbot attends the Sex and Candy book party, December 2007
I read from my Hide and Seek story "Like This" at Best Of In The Flesh, 9/20/07
"How Do You Like It?" (interview for National Masturbation Month), Fleshbot
"Where Sluts Fear to Tread," From True Sex Confessions Night at In The Flesh, YouTube
Getting spanked by Elise on Fleshbot
Moderating Mediabistro's "From Blogs to Books" Panel (free preview)
Playing Ms. Pacman at SXSW
Interviews With Me
Cleis Press interview on Best Sex Writing 2008
Hipster Book Club interview on erotica
Daily Bedpost (Conde Nast's sex blog) interview by Em & Lo
Sex Worker Solidarity interview by Radical Vixen
"The sex columnist meta-interview," by Violet Blue, San Francisco Chronicle, October 11, 2007
Mr. NYC blog
Adult Friend Finder
Robin Byrd's Speaking of Sex podcast (hear me get spanked at the end!)
The Blushing Ladies Journal
Susie Bright's blog
Radio Blowfish Variety Show
my feminist ass, my real panties
why I'm happy with the "cleavage situation"
feminist blowjobs and other oxymorons
Feminism vs. sexuality, or, the false dichotomy that will not die
"Are you a ho or do you just want others to be?"
Reasonable person, my ass!
Don't fuck the pregnant lady!
not a total bitch
BooksSee all of the books I've edited or contributed to here
Yes, Ma'am: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance
see the website here
Yes, Sir: Erotic Stories of Male Dominance
see the website with TOC and info here
Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women
see the website with intro, blurbs, and TOC here
Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica
Read the introducation and table of contents for Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica here
Anthologies with my stories
Best Women's Erotica 2007 with my story "Animals" Click here to hear editor Violet Blue read it on her "Open Source Sex" podcast
Best Women's Erotica 2006 With my female domination story "Spike" Click here to hear editor Violet Blue read it on her "Open Source Sex" podcast