Pretty latex and an interview to tide you over

Photo by Emma Delves-Broughton
Originally uploaded by Gun Street Girl

I'm on a bit of a blogging/CrossFit/lnon-urgent email/life hiatus through the rest of the year (save for my awesome cupcake and Mad Lib and candy-filled Sex and Candy book release PARTY tomorrow night and In The Flesh on the 20th) to finally finish my long overdue novel and, to a lesser extent, get my life sorted out.

In the meantime, here's a pretty photo taken by Emma Delves-Broughton, the photographer of the beautiful book Kinky Couture.



Also, check out my interview with Greta Christina about her wonderful Best Sex Writing 2008 essay wonderful essay “Buying Obedience: My Visit to a Pro Submissive,” about her experience hiring a pro sub, writing about it, and how that affected her sex life and fantasies subsequently. (Note: the woman she hired was named Rachel, but is obviously not me.)

When you visited the professional submissive, was it with the purpose of writing about it, or did that come later? How long afterwards did you write the essay and did your thoughts about the experience change as you wrote it?

I definitely visited Rachel with the intention of writing about it. It’s how I justified the expense to myself, actually. I’m a freelance writer, I’m not exactly raking in the big bucks, and I’m not generally in a position to drop $300 on a one-hour luxury splurge. But as a professional expense…that’s a different story.

I started writing about it almost immediately afterwards. In fact, much of the essay talks about my planning and thought processes before visiting Rachel — and I started writing that before I even saw her.

Writing about the experience didn’t change my thoughts about it, exactly. But it did clarify them. And more importantly, I’m not sure I would have had the experience at all if I hadn’t planned to write about it. I don’t think I could have justified the expense; but I also don’t know if I would have had the nerve to go through with it. If it had just been for my own pleasure and curiosity, I might have chickened out.

Read the whole interview