"Why Married Men Are Hot" by Elizabeth Hayt

There's also an anonymous essay in the latest Elle with Madonna on the cover from an ex-husband on why he left his wife.

"Why Married Men Are Hot" by Elizabeth Hayt, New York Post, January 23, 2006

In New York, where eligible men are few and far between, single women who endure long stretches of unwilled celibacy may resort to cheating with someone else's husband because it seems like the only hope - consequences be damned...

But other than an arid sex life, why do single women dare to dally with married men? To cheat with someone's spouse may seem self-defeating, even masochistic, since the promise of a romantic future is pretty dim. Few mistresses become homewreckers.

Yet single women can benefit from marital infidelity. It gives them freedom to search for Mr. Right without denying their libidinal needs. Other women's husbands are also a bachelorette's great ego-booster. "They're desperately looking for the early stages of love when there's that sweet, tender feeling," said a girlfriend in her late 30s, a well-seasoned mistress. "They're much more driven and aggressive in their pursuit of you, which makes a woman feel wanted.